Toys & Prosthetics

Entering the world of sex toys and prosthetics can be both affirming and exciting. With thousands of options available, there’s something to suit every body, desire, and budget. From vibrators and dildos to harnesses and prosthetics, these tools can enhance pleasure and self-expression. However, proper use, cleaning, and storage are essential to ensure your safety and the longevity of your products. Here’s a guide to help you explore this diverse and vibrant world safely.

Sex Toys

Sex toys come in a wide range of styles and designs. There truly is something for everyone, including toys specifically created with trans and gender-diverse bodies in mind. Although some toys may be marketed towards certain bodies, it’s important to remember that with a bit of creativity and imagination, most toys can be enjoyed in a variety of ways, regardless of their intended user. Some toys may have a more neutral appearance, while others might be designed to resemble or replicate specific body parts like the anus, penis, vulva, or vagina/front hole. Sex toys can vibrate, suction, flick, rub, restrict, pinch, restrain, and do so much more. Additionally, some sex toys can be used as aids to enhance comfort or prevent pain during sex.

Things to Consider When Buying a Sex Toy

• First time?: If it’s your first time buying a sex toy, or trying a particular type of toy, it’s best to start small and ease into the experience. Size may be a factor, and bodies often need time to adjust to new sensations. For example, sex toys can provide unique sensations, like vibration, which aren’t achievable through manual stimulation. You might discover that you don’t enjoy vibration after trying it, so start with something smaller or less intense, such as a bullet vibrator, to experiment.
• What kind of play?: Think about how and when you’ll use the toy. Will it be for solo use or with someone else?
• Must-haves: Consider the specific features you need. Would you prefer a toy that’s battery-powered or rechargeable? Does it need to have a travel lock? Should it be waterproof or whisper quiet?
• Explore first: Avoid buying a toy for a body part you haven’t explored yourself or with someone else.
• Go with what catches your eye: Consider what stands out to you, whether it’s the colour, shape, or texture. What grabs your attention?
• Read reviews: While everyone’s preferences are unique, reading reviews or looking at best-selling items can guide you toward well-made products. However, keep in mind that what works for one person may not work for you.
• Materials: Sex toys are made from a variety of materials. Some are porous (with tiny holes) and some are non-porous (no tiny holes).  It’s generally recommended to choose toys made from non-porous materials, as they are much easier to clean properly. Examples of common porous materials are rubber, jelly and latex. Common non-porous materials are pure silicone, ABS hard plastic, borosilicate glass and metal, to name a few. 

Prosthetics

Prosthetics can play a significant role in enhancing self-expression, comfort, and pleasure. Whether you’re using them for gender affirmation, sexual enjoyment, or both, understanding the proper care of these items will help you make the most of them. Always prioritise hygiene and comfort for a more positive experience.

@messyvoices – Trans man.

I didn’t know this world could be so affirming. There’s this beautiful connection that some people can do that can make it feel like the prosthetic is part of you, and you can feel through it. It’s such a tremendous thing that dysphoric sex can turn into something so affirming and euphoric through toys and prosthetics. It helped me be able to receive pleasure. Particularly if the person I’m with is also in that connective space with me.

Types of Prosthetics

• Breast Forms are designed to create the appearance of a fuller bust and can be particularly affirming for those looking to enhance their chest area. They are typically made from silicone for a realistic feel but can also be found in foam or other materials. Breast forms come in various shapes, sizes, and styles, including adhesive options that stick directly to the skin or ones that are worn inside a bra.
• Hip and bum padding are used to enhance or alter the shape of the hips or buttocks. These are available in silicone or foam and can provide a more pronounced curve or fullness. Some pads are designed to be worn inside clothing or with special undergarments. They can also be DIY-ed using common household items, but ensure any homemade versions are comfortable and hygienic.
• Packers are designed to fill out the crotch area of pants, simulating the appearance of a penis. They are usually made from soft silicone and are intended to be worn with a harness or adhesive. Packers can provide a more masculine appearance in clothing. They come in various sizes and shapes, and some may also double as functional prosthetics in certain cases.
• STP (Stand-to-Pee) devices are designed to allow people to urinate while standing. These devices mimic the appearance of a penis and are used by holding them against the body to direct urine. Proper practice and hygiene are crucial when using STP devices to avoid infections and ensure functionality.
• Prosthetic penises are designed to look and feel like a biological penis and can serve multiple functions, including sexual pleasure. These prosthetics can be factory-made or handcrafted and are typically made from silicone for a realistic texture. Some advanced models include features like internal inflatable tubes to simulate an erection or combine functions of STP devices. Prosthetic penises come in a range of sizes, colours, and designs to suit different needs and preferences. If used during sex or for urination, proper care and hygiene practices are crucial to avoid infection and ensure functionality.
• Prosthetic vaginas are designed to cover the genital area with the look of a vulva. Some have internal stimulation (vaginal canal) and urination capabilities.If used during sex or for urination, proper care and hygiene practices are crucial to avoid infection and ensure functionality.
• Tucking underwear or gaffs are not prosthetics but are worth mentioning. They are designed to help tuck away external genitals, creating a smoother appearance. They are made from stretchy materials and come in various styles, including those that provide additional support and comfort. Tucking underwear can be particularly useful for those seeking a more streamlined look in their clothing.

@messyvoices

I love my prosthetic vagina’s. I have 2 and they each have their strengths and weaknesses. They were both under $100 and are full silicon. When my partners and I have sex using them it is very exciting and stimulating. I also enjoy wearing one during the day at work as I can use it to go the bathroom, and my clothing feels and looks right with it. One of my partners is non-binary and it caused a reaction in them when they first saw me wearing it. They are not for everyone, but through this tool I have learnt that I do not have to go through surgery to feel right with myself. They need a good clean after use using soap and water and this is not particularly taxing, and I am lucky enough to be able to drip dry them because I have a washing line that is private.

Safe Use

1. Fit and Comfort: Ensure that any prosthetic or padding you use fits comfortably and securely. Ill-fitting prosthetics can cause discomfort or even injury.
2. Hygiene: Regularly clean prosthetics according to the manufacturer’s instructions. For items like breast forms or packers, use mild soap and water and let them air dry. Avoid using harsh chemicals that can damage the material.
3. Adhesives and Harnesses: If using adhesives or harnesses, follow application instructions carefully to avoid skin irritation or damage to the prosthetic. Ensure that adhesives are safe for your skin type.
4. Use a Different Condom Every Time: When using insertive toys or prosthetics (dildos, strap-ons, prosthetic penis, etc.), switch condoms each time you change body parts or partners. This helps prevent the spread of STIs and maintains hygiene.
5. Use Lube: Lubrication reduces friction and enhances pleasure. Use water-based lubes for easy cleanup, silicone-based for longer-lasting sessions, and avoid oil-based lubes with latex barriers. Apply generously to prevent discomfort and potential tearing. Remember, silicone lube shouldn’t be used with silicone toys.

Cleaning

Proper cleaning is essential to prevent infections and maintain the quality of your products. Always check the manufacturer’s instructions for information about how to clean your specific product. Here’s how to clean different materials:

• Silicone: Wash with warm water and mild soap. Or, use a toy cleaner and rinse. 
• Plastic, Acrylic, Glass, Metal: Clean with warm water and antibacterial soap. Sterilise using rubbing alcohol. Acrylic, glass, and metal can be boiled.
• Rubber, Latex, Jelly: Wash thoroughly with warm water and antibacterial soap or use a toy cleaner. These materials are porous and can harbour bacteria, condoms are useful with these materials.
• Cyberskin, Vinyl: Clean with warm water and liquid antibacterial soap, then sprinkle with cornstarch to keep the material from becoming sticky.
• Motorised toys: Wipe with a damp, soapy cloth or use a toy cleaner. Avoid submerging in water, especially if they have electrical components. Use a soft toothbrush for textured areas.
• Enema or Douching Equipment: Thoroughly wash with hot, soapy water and soak in a sanitising solution. Never immerse electrical components in water.

Storage

Proper storage extends the life of your products. Here’s some tips:

• Clean and Dry: Ensure toys are thoroughly cleaned and dried before storing. Leaving bodily fluids or lube on your products can degrade the material and make it unsafe for future use.
• Cool, Dry, Dark Place: Store in a cool, dry, and dark location to prevent degradation.
• Avoid Contact: Keep toys and prosthetics from touching each other, as some materials can react negatively. Soft satin bags can help with this, and some products come with these.