Embracing the beautifully complex and messy intersections of sex, intimacy, relationships, and gender.
Welcome to Messy— a space created by and for trans and gender diverse folks and their allies. We know that sex, gender, and identity can be beautifully complex and sometimes a little messy. That’s why we’re here, to explore and celebrate the intersection of sex, intimacy, identity, and relationships in safe and pleasurable ways.
Messy is a guide to the rich, diverse experiences of trans and gender diverse folks, offering insights for everyone—from community members to their sexual connections, partners, healthcare providers, and allies. Whether you’re here to learn, explore, or connect, this resource is for you.
We recognise the vast diversity within our community, from the words we use to describe ourselves and our bodies, to the ways we experience and express sexuality and connection. Messy embraces all identities under the transgender and gender diverse umbrella, and acknowledges the full spectrum of relationship and connection styles.
Throughout this resource, you’ll find specific, body-positive information designed to be both practical and affirming. We use clear, medical terms to describe body parts, but we encourage you to use the language that feels right for you in any context, whether with healthcare providers, partners, during sex, or in your personal reflections.
The team behind Messy believes in your right to define your own experience. This is your space, your guide to navigating the messy, wonderful world of sex, gender, and everything in between.
