Making Sex Safer
Throughout this website, we present information that is specific and descriptive about body parts and potential risks, but we avoid describing the genders of people to whom this information might apply. We use medical terms such as “vagina”, “anus”, and “penis” to describe relevant body parts. However, we encourage you to use the language that feels most comfortable for you when talking about yourself or being referred to by others. When interacting with health providers, partners, and sexual connections, we encourage you to request the language that is most affirming and appropriate for you.
Across Messy, you’ll find lots of different strategies to make sex safer and more enjoyable. To reduce the mess, we’ve condensed some of the key champions of safer sex into this guide. By understanding and implementing some (or all) of these practices, you can make sex a safer (and sexier) experience for everyone involved.
Condoms
Condoms come in various shapes, sizes, and materials, including latex and non-latex options. They offer barrier protection to prevent HIV and other STIs, and can also prevent pregnancy. Condoms can be external (used on penis/toys/prosthetics) or internal (worn in vagina/anus). Remember to use plenty of water-based or silicone-based lube and follow proper application and removal techniques to maximise their effectiveness.
Dams
Dental dams are thin latex or polyurethane sheets used to cover genital and anal areas during oral sex. They help reduce the risk of STI transmission. To use a dam, lay it flat over the area and hold the edges to keep it in place. Use a new dam if switching between different body parts.
Gloves
Gloves can be used during hand play or when handling used sex toys to prevent STI transmission and cross-contamination. They are particularly useful when moving between different body parts, multiple people, or if there are wounds on your hands. Opt for nitrile, powder-free gloves to avoid latex allergies.
Lube
Lube enhances comfort and reduces friction during sex. It comes in water-based, silicone-based, oil-based, and hybrid formulas. Water-based lubes are versatile and easy to clean, while silicone-based lubes last longer and are great for water activities, but can’t be used with silicone toys and prosthetics. Oil-based is great for external play and massage, and can’t be used with latex condoms.
Wash Your Hands
Clean hands are essential for safer sex. Wash your hands with soap and water before and after sex. Pay special attention to nail care: keep nails short and smooth, clean under them regularly, and avoid using nail polish or artificial nails. If necessary, wear gloves to protect against accidental scratches or injuries.
PrEP
Pre-exposure prophylaxis (PrEP) is a medication to prevent HIV transmission. When taken correctly, it is highly effective in reducing HIV risk. PrEP can be taken daily or on-demand, depending on your needs and your body. PrEP only protects you from HIV, so condoms will still need to be worn if you want to avoid other STIs.
U=U
U=U stands for Undetectable = Untransmittable. If a person living with HIV has an undetectable viral load, they cannot transmit the virus to their sexual partners. 98% of people living with HIV who are on treatment in Australia are undetectable. However, it does not protect against other STIs.
Getting Tested
Getting a sexual health test is relatively simple. It involves a urine test, a blood test, and swab tests. You can get one through your GP, sexual health centre, and some walk-in centres.
Talking
Open and honest communication with your sexual partners about safer sex practices, getting tested, and STI statuses is crucial. Discussing boundaries, preferences, and protection methods ensures that everyone involved feels respected and informed. Practice clear, direct conversations to maintain a healthy and consensual sexual connection.
Vaccinations
Certain vaccinations can help prevent some sexually transmitted infections. You can be immunised against Hepatitis A, Hepatitis B, HPV and MPOX. For more information follow the links below.
Consult with your healthcare practitioner to ensure you’re up-to-date with vaccinations.
